Quotes and Discussion Questions Quotes and Discussion Questions

“I think what’s critical is that we try to resolve this in patience and with divine perspective, not trying to dictate to God how and what His answers will be to our prayers or when and how He might intervene in this situation, but trying to achieve and understand His perspective on things so that everyone’s desire is to do what the Lord would want done, to do it in the Lord’s way, and not one’s own way, and not simply to be thinking of one’s own feelings exclusively. And that might work out differently in one family than another. We’re trying to communicate that our love is inclusive, that we want to have the family remain intact, and the relationships we’ve treasured over the years to remain and to grow. So there will be some work to be done but its work that ought to always be with the question, ‘what does the Lord want, how would He have us do this together?” – Elder D. Todd Christofferson

Discussion questions:
What can we do to ensure our hearts are open to working with others in seeking and receiving God’s will for us together?

What are ways to promote constructive conversations with those with whom we might disagree?

“No one fully knows the root causes of same-sex attraction. Each experience is different. Latter-day Saints recognize the enormous complexity of this matter. We simply don’t have all the answers. Attraction to those of the same sex, however, should not be viewed as a disease or illness. We must not judge anyone for the feelings they experience. Members of the Church who have same-sex attractions, but don’t act on them, can continue to enjoy full fellowship in the church, which includes holding the priesthood, carrying out callings, and attending the temple. Unlike in times past, the Church does not necessarily advise those with same-sex attraction to marry those of the opposite sex.”
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How can we as a ward help those who are gay feel like a welcome part of the ward?

“Initial reactions are critical. And the inclination, the temptation that people have often is anger or rejection. Sometimes it’s simply denial, on both sides of the question, whatever it may be. And it’s important to have enough self-control to lay all that aside and to have a little patience, and to begin to talk and begin to listen and begin to try and understand better. We don’t have to resolve everything in a month or a week or a year. These things are questions of resolution over time and accommodation over time and seeking the will of the Lord over time and guided by him over time.”
– Elder D. Todd Christofferson

Question: What are some practical things you think you can do to cultivate more patience and begin to talk and listen rather than react with anger or rejection?